For every guy I blog about there's about 1-2 more that had potential but at some point they didn't make the cut to actually meet in person. At the request of one of my readers, I will post what I call the Red Flags. These are the ones that we talk for a bit and then before meeting they turn into a psycho for some reason.
I began talking to Red Flag # 1 right before the new year. We were suppose to meet 2 weeks ago but I was sick and then last weekend he was in the process of moving. He claimed to be 38, lives in St. Charles County and his name is Chad. I would hear from him at least once a day just to say hi, how was your day, or hope your day was good. We decided to meet yesterday but Friday night I decided to do some searching on marylandjudiciarycasesearch.com (which is a godsend for Maryland online daters BTW!). I didn't know his middle name but knew his birthday. So I came across a Chad with the same last name, and same birthday but not the correct year. The rest of the story will play out via drama like dialogue:
Me: You ever been arrested? Have a record?
RF1: Huh??? What kind of a weird question is that?
Me: Just wondering if you have a criminal past that I would know about! LOL.
RF1: Wow...seriously? No, but that's a tad judgmental don't ya think?
Me: No. How's that judgmental? If you said yes and I then said I don't want to meet you anymore without hearing you out, that would be judgmental.
RF1: Are you one of those people who thinks people who have been arrested are somehow bad people?
Me: How old are you again?
RF1: How old are you?
Me: 35
RF1: 38
Me: You have a middle name?
RF1: You are weirding me out.
Me: Why?
RF1: Because you are interrogating me. LOL
Me: Eugene?
RF1: If you don't feel comfortable, don't meet me...simple
Me: Well I did feel comfortable until this conversation because I'm not sure you're being honest.
RF1: Well then we won't meet... I have zero reason not to be but if you don't feel comfortable then I respect that.
Me: So your middle name isn't Eugene?
RF1: No... Chad is a nickname also...but hey no sweat. If you think I'm not being honest I will save the gas and you can do the same.
Me: There's a Chad with your bday that has tons of charges for pot and an assault charge, attempted murder charge....but he's older. Hey you can't fault me for being smart and precautions. I'm going to trust you until you give me a reason not to. But when I ask a question and it's not answered that may seem a bit shady. You never know who you are actually talking to until you meet.
RF1: That's cool...NO worries...don't worry about it. Enjoy your weekend.
Me: Wow, so that's it? Really? Who's judgmental?
At this point, I consider myself a professional dater! I know all the tricks, all the typical sayings that guys use, what's true, what's not true and how to dig for the dirt! Very little slips by me. I've learned as time went on. I meant to judiciary case search RF1 prior to Friday but it kept slipping my mind. It's very important to get the other person's first, middle and last name and birthday. With that information, you can find out a lot!
The new Potential Stud #2 is a bit older (41) and has already divulged his first, middle, and last name and birthday. He's in the (ch)Air Force and has a 9 year old son and a teenage daughter but different moms. He's technically still married to the son's mom but she is always at her "friend's" house and they both have lawyers going through the separation agreement stuff. I can deal with that... he was upfront and honest about it and I appreciate that. He could have hidden those facts but he didn't. That says a lot about him already. He lives in Severna Park and no plans to meet up are set yet but perhaps next weekend or if I'm feeling twirly one evening this week coffee and conversation will be had!
