So, date 5 was dinner at his house. He asked me if I had anything in mind that I wanted, I told him to surprise me but I don't like beef stroganoff (LOL, long story there). He said that wouldn't be something he would make and asked if I like salmon and if there were any veggies I don't eat. I said salmon is great and gave him a list of about 5-6 veggies that I can't consume for taste reasons not allergy reasons.
I got to his house which is located in a little water community in Edgewater. The house is owned by a lady that owns a hair salon in DTA and it was VERY HOT in there. I was wearing a hoodie because I thought it would be cooler down by the water. I was very hot. The house has no AC, just units that they rarely use so all the windows/doors were open. There are also a gaggle of cats! There's stray cats all over the place and they come in and out as they please! Now, I'm not a HUGE fan of cats only because I'm allergic and yes, I do own a cat and she was a feral cat. But feral cats belong outside and pet cats belong inside. Feral outside cats have some disgusting habits that are not house appropriate. For example, they are not trained to go in a litter box, they have who knows what on them/in their fur, they are a bit more feisty due to the fact they have to fend for themselves against other wildlife, etc. They kept their distance so we got along ok.
Ryan cooked salmon topped with crab meat, red potatoes and asparagus on the grill. He ended up burning the asparagus so there were only about 2 stalks that were viable to consume. He also made a sauce to put on the salmon. He used a hollandaise packet but added some things to it. I would have preferred it all plain and he used way too much butter. My stomach was aching when I got home. The salmon and crab was good though. The potatoes were tasty as well.
After dinner, I did the dishes since he cooked. We then made some coffee and walked around the cute little community. Some BET head honcho lives in the community and has a gated house that looks amazing from the outside! If I had a selfie stick, I would have used it to see over the fences/gates. I am dying to know what the pool looks like. *Note to self-google earth that house*
We walked back to the house and I decided it was time to go. So that's where that date ended. We had plans to meet up last night for date 6.... so....
Last night we got suite tickets to the Nats game from a coworker of mine. He had his son, so he had to drop him off to the kid's mom at 1 and then he was to meet me at my house. When he got to me, he got a quick show-and-tell of the house, a Molly introduction, and then we left to get on the loveliness that is the DC Metro.
We got to the stadium and he was introduced to all my other coworkers/friends that were there. He also bought me a Sam Adams but then complained that it was 10 bucks a cup.... well, duh. So, me being me, can't have just one SA. I told him I would buy a second round if he wanted one. He walked with me, I thought he was going to insist on paying for the second round but no such luck. So I bought the second round.
Our plan was that we would walk by the waterfront after the game, but since the game went into 12 innings, it was too dark to do so and we hitched a ride back to my car at the metro with friends. That was wonderful even though the GPS aka "Esmarelda" took us the longest route possible.
We made it to the car and got back to the house about 9ish I guess. *Backtrack a bit- Ryan is not the best kisser. I'm not sure if I mentioned that in a previous post or not, but he's not. I thought perhaps the technique would get better once "nerves" would calm down. Nope, kissing him isn't that fun.** Back on track- so since he was staying over, things got going in the physical direction but that sucks too! He thinks that the faster you move, the better it is. I don't have time or patience to be training a 42 year old man in the dynamics of how to please a female. Hell, he was married for 13 years... how? why? what? It was so bad that after about 5-10 minutes (I wasn't timing it but it wasn't long), I had to tell him that I "wasn't feeling it". Yes, I used those exact words and added that I wish I did, but I don't. He asked me what I meant, was I not feeling "the moment" or him completely. I told him the moment. He said that's fine and he would be perfectly happy just holding me all night. I don't want to be held or even touched when I'm awake never mind when I'm trying to sleep the 5 minutes a night I do sleep! I told him I also didn't want him to put his dating life on hold just for me because I'm not sure what I want (I know exactly what I want, I'm just not sure it's him). He said that he's willing to wait and see where we go and he's not going anywhere. He's sure that we are headed in a good direction. I explained to him that I am a bit commitment phobic and that signing a cell phone contract makes me hyperventilate and I'm not sure about the fact that he has a kid. That puts a different spin on things plus his work schedule is different too so I would never have a full day or weekend with him just to myself. He has his kid on his days off, so until I meet his kid-it will never be full day dates with him. And, once I do meet the kid it won't be just him and I... so.... there lies the issue.
His kid also is into video games galore. That's all he does when he visits Ryan...plays mine craft. He doesn't like roller coasters/rides so amusement parks are out, he's never been camping but Ryan says he would like to take him at some point but I'm not convinced he'd be into it. We talked a bit about if we were to get into a full blown relationship then I know I wouldn't be his mom because he has a mom but I would be some sort of parental figure since we'd be together and whatnot. Ryan's response was "sort of". That bugged me. I mean I know I wouldn't jump into Stepmom mode lickedy split but eventually, he would have to see me as an authoritative figure in his life. I get the feeling that wouldn't fly too well with Ryan. But then again, I wouldn't allow Ryan to discipline Molly-however, it's a little different. Ryan also mentioned that he doesn't plan on moving in with someone anytime in the near future...well I don't want him moving in with me ever. I can't sleep with someone else in my bed, I like my space and my perfect match would have a house of his own where we could live separately but spend the night over whichever one's house whenever we felt necessary. I don't sleep well and I sleep even less when I have to share a bed with someone.
With all the above said, I don't get the warm fuzzies and the over the moon feeling when I'm around him. I do enjoy his company and I enjoy spending time with him but I think it's because I see him as a friend and I like doing things with company. I believe he has entered the friend zone. We are still planning on going to Stevie Wonder next weekend but I might have to break the FZ news to him before then so it's not weird and he doesn't try to kiss me or grope me.
I'm sure my friends that are reading this will have a lot of opinions about "giving it some time" or "enjoy the moment" or "blah blah blah" but If it's not who I want and I'm not over the moon about him, I don't want to waste his or my time being in a situation that I'm not 100% comfortable with. Someone out there has to be my match, where I can't wait to see him (even after 3 dates) and it pains me to be away from him. With Ryan, I like to spend a couple hours with him and then I want my space. I guess we will see.....
Sunday, September 27, 2015
Sunday, September 20, 2015
Date 4
So, last night was my friend's birthday celebration at her house. I invited Ryan to come with (with the approval of friend, of course). She had already met him prior (see date 1) but I'm sure he would have accepted the invite regardless because he's pretty social like that.
I picked him up at his work and we went to the party. I was able to clean out my fridge of all the random beers I had in there, plus we had some fireball minis. We each had one mini prior to going in to the house to get things started.
I wasn't hating the affection. I was feeling much more comfortable, VERY comfortable with him. As soon as we got in to the party house we were recruited for flip cup. I can't say I've ever played before and I don't think he had either but it was fun! He was very social and said he was having fun and glad I invited him. :)
We left the party about 12:30ish and I had to bring him back to his vehicle which was left at his work. We had a small make out session before he left.
This morning he texted me that he had hid his online dating profile and I told him he didn't have to do that. He said "I wanted to. I like you a lot and I want to see if this can work." Like I stated earlier, Ryan "feels" different than the other guys I've met. I continue to have him appear in my dreams (he knows this information as well). I look forward to seeing him EVERY single time. I'm excited to continue this ride and see where it leads. Our next date will be on Wednesday. Not sure the plan yet but it'll be Wednesday.
I picked him up at his work and we went to the party. I was able to clean out my fridge of all the random beers I had in there, plus we had some fireball minis. We each had one mini prior to going in to the house to get things started.
I wasn't hating the affection. I was feeling much more comfortable, VERY comfortable with him. As soon as we got in to the party house we were recruited for flip cup. I can't say I've ever played before and I don't think he had either but it was fun! He was very social and said he was having fun and glad I invited him. :)
We left the party about 12:30ish and I had to bring him back to his vehicle which was left at his work. We had a small make out session before he left.
This morning he texted me that he had hid his online dating profile and I told him he didn't have to do that. He said "I wanted to. I like you a lot and I want to see if this can work." Like I stated earlier, Ryan "feels" different than the other guys I've met. I continue to have him appear in my dreams (he knows this information as well). I look forward to seeing him EVERY single time. I'm excited to continue this ride and see where it leads. Our next date will be on Wednesday. Not sure the plan yet but it'll be Wednesday.
Monday, September 14, 2015
Date 2.5 and 3 with Ryan
So, this morning was set to be the official third date, but last night I was meeting a coworker and her husband in Annapolis for a late night bite to eat, so I decided to see if Ryan wanted to stop by after work. I knew he was due to get off work at 1030 and it was about 10ish when I got this idea.... He said he was game. We didn't stay too long but we closed the place down. He only got one beer and I got fried pickles so I paid for our share of the tab. :)
We left there about midnight and he walked me to my car. There was an exchange of a couple awkward kisses. I could tell he was trying to get a bit more into the goodbye than I was so it was a bit awkward. But, we got through it and confirmed that we would see each other at the Iron Rooster at 9am......
.....at 9am.... I was running a bit behind due to the loveliness that is Annapolis roadways. He said he would just wait by the docks and it was no problem. When I got to the parking lot, there was an open spot right next to him in prime parking real estate territory. Parking luck, double time. Plus, the meters don't start until 10 so we had about 45 minutes of free parking.
Breakfast was fantastic. I had to get a pop tart since they are their specialty there and he ordered one too so we could try two different flavors. I got the brown sugar one (and it was delicious). He got the coffee one (which was good, but not as good as mine). I also was tossing back and forth from the french toast and the meal I ultimately decided on choosing. I love me some french toast, but it's on challah bread and I'm not sure I'm going to like that. I like thinner bread for my FT. So I went with 2 eggs (over medium), home fries, rye bread and bacon. I ate only about 3/4th of everything because it was so filling. He ordered the shrimp and grits.... no comment on the looks of that!
Toward the end of breakfast, it was time to feed the meter so he ran out and gave each meter 2 hours worth of meter food. He then came back and the check came. Now, as I posted in the previous blog, I was willing to pay for this date since he has graciously paid for all the others (except the coffee consumption at Starbucks). I reached for the bill and he did too. I told him that I would pay for this one since he paid for all the others and he said no, it's his pleasure. Which made me giggle because I immediately thought that he could get a job at Chik-Fil-A with no problem! I then told him that I wasn't going to fight him on it and thank you!
So we paid, and decided since we had tons of time to kill, we would walk around the cobblestone streets of DTA. When we looped around back to our cars, we still had an hour left so we decided to walk over the Eastport Bridge and see what there was to see over there. We got back to our cars with 7 minutes left on the meter. I mentioned my friend's party which is happening Saturday and asked if he wanted to attend after he was done working. He agreed and so that will be the next planned "date". Is it really a date when it's a gathering of sorts? Anyway, that will be the next time we have planned to see one another. He has off Tuesday and Wednesday but has his kid. I believe he has his kid Friday too.
Ok, so i decided since this seems to be going in the right direction, I would fill him in as to my lack of affection and hand holding phobia (no wonder I'm single, right?). So I sent him a lengthy text which is transcribed as follows:
Me: Ok since it seems like we're still headed in the right direction, I think it's only fair that I give you fair warning. I'm not the most affectionate person at least to start with. I don't really like holding hands and I think it's kind of odd to do so. And I'm not very comfortable with kissing at least passionately in public places. I don't mind a quick kiss goodbye or a kiss on the cheek or something like that but other than that, at least in the beginning until something is a bit more established, I like to keep it simple. I am very in dependent and getting close to people is not something that I'm use to. I am very guarded but I am enjoying getting to know you and spending time with you. I just wanted to make you aware of how I feel so that neither one of us is in an odd situation or an uncomfortable situation. I also do not like talking about my feelings so I would never say any of this in person. LOL.
Him: That's ok. I'd rather you be up front about that anyway. I am most definitely enjoying our time together. If you feel I am going too fast please feel free to let me know. The last thing I was to do is make you feel uncomfortable. I can see you are independent. I can be a little old fashioned, sometimes to a fault. But I am also very adaptable. Also, I think your dog will like me. LOL.
Me: LOL. Oh my dog would definitely like you. Old fashioned is good. It's tough to find someone like that these days so you're a welcome surprise in the dating world. The door opening and the paying for dates has not gone unnoticed, trust me. Major brownie points are earned every time.
With all that said, I feel much better and hopefully more relaxed when we are together now that I know he knows my thoughts and feelings about all that stuff. While we were walking today, I found myself making sure that my wristlet/wallet/purse thing was in my hand that was closest to him so that he couldn't just go in for a hold. Ridiculous, I know! I've got more issues than People magazine!
I do enjoy his company, that I wouldn't lie about or go along with if it wasn't true. He also is very attentive and remembers details of things that I've already told him. I, on the other hand, can't remember diddly-squat.
Until Saturday (perhaps sooner if there's an impromptu encounter)....
We left there about midnight and he walked me to my car. There was an exchange of a couple awkward kisses. I could tell he was trying to get a bit more into the goodbye than I was so it was a bit awkward. But, we got through it and confirmed that we would see each other at the Iron Rooster at 9am......
.....at 9am.... I was running a bit behind due to the loveliness that is Annapolis roadways. He said he would just wait by the docks and it was no problem. When I got to the parking lot, there was an open spot right next to him in prime parking real estate territory. Parking luck, double time. Plus, the meters don't start until 10 so we had about 45 minutes of free parking.
Breakfast was fantastic. I had to get a pop tart since they are their specialty there and he ordered one too so we could try two different flavors. I got the brown sugar one (and it was delicious). He got the coffee one (which was good, but not as good as mine). I also was tossing back and forth from the french toast and the meal I ultimately decided on choosing. I love me some french toast, but it's on challah bread and I'm not sure I'm going to like that. I like thinner bread for my FT. So I went with 2 eggs (over medium), home fries, rye bread and bacon. I ate only about 3/4th of everything because it was so filling. He ordered the shrimp and grits.... no comment on the looks of that!
Toward the end of breakfast, it was time to feed the meter so he ran out and gave each meter 2 hours worth of meter food. He then came back and the check came. Now, as I posted in the previous blog, I was willing to pay for this date since he has graciously paid for all the others (except the coffee consumption at Starbucks). I reached for the bill and he did too. I told him that I would pay for this one since he paid for all the others and he said no, it's his pleasure. Which made me giggle because I immediately thought that he could get a job at Chik-Fil-A with no problem! I then told him that I wasn't going to fight him on it and thank you!
So we paid, and decided since we had tons of time to kill, we would walk around the cobblestone streets of DTA. When we looped around back to our cars, we still had an hour left so we decided to walk over the Eastport Bridge and see what there was to see over there. We got back to our cars with 7 minutes left on the meter. I mentioned my friend's party which is happening Saturday and asked if he wanted to attend after he was done working. He agreed and so that will be the next planned "date". Is it really a date when it's a gathering of sorts? Anyway, that will be the next time we have planned to see one another. He has off Tuesday and Wednesday but has his kid. I believe he has his kid Friday too.
Ok, so i decided since this seems to be going in the right direction, I would fill him in as to my lack of affection and hand holding phobia (no wonder I'm single, right?). So I sent him a lengthy text which is transcribed as follows:
Me: Ok since it seems like we're still headed in the right direction, I think it's only fair that I give you fair warning. I'm not the most affectionate person at least to start with. I don't really like holding hands and I think it's kind of odd to do so. And I'm not very comfortable with kissing at least passionately in public places. I don't mind a quick kiss goodbye or a kiss on the cheek or something like that but other than that, at least in the beginning until something is a bit more established, I like to keep it simple. I am very in dependent and getting close to people is not something that I'm use to. I am very guarded but I am enjoying getting to know you and spending time with you. I just wanted to make you aware of how I feel so that neither one of us is in an odd situation or an uncomfortable situation. I also do not like talking about my feelings so I would never say any of this in person. LOL.
Him: That's ok. I'd rather you be up front about that anyway. I am most definitely enjoying our time together. If you feel I am going too fast please feel free to let me know. The last thing I was to do is make you feel uncomfortable. I can see you are independent. I can be a little old fashioned, sometimes to a fault. But I am also very adaptable. Also, I think your dog will like me. LOL.
Me: LOL. Oh my dog would definitely like you. Old fashioned is good. It's tough to find someone like that these days so you're a welcome surprise in the dating world. The door opening and the paying for dates has not gone unnoticed, trust me. Major brownie points are earned every time.
With all that said, I feel much better and hopefully more relaxed when we are together now that I know he knows my thoughts and feelings about all that stuff. While we were walking today, I found myself making sure that my wristlet/wallet/purse thing was in my hand that was closest to him so that he couldn't just go in for a hold. Ridiculous, I know! I've got more issues than People magazine!
I do enjoy his company, that I wouldn't lie about or go along with if it wasn't true. He also is very attentive and remembers details of things that I've already told him. I, on the other hand, can't remember diddly-squat.
Until Saturday (perhaps sooner if there's an impromptu encounter)....
Saturday, September 12, 2015
Date 2 with Ryan
So, I thought I was having a dinner date tonight but it turns out I was in for a lunch date. That was even better because I could have my date and go out with my girl at night! The best of both worlds.
I met Ryan at Houlihans. I had never been there before but looked up their menu prior to going so I knew what I was in for. Everything on the menu looks delicious. So when I got there, he was already sitting in his car. I was greeted with a hug and a kiss on the cheek. SWEET!
So we shared calamari and like a good guy, he ate the leggy ones so I could enjoy the rings. I told him he didn't have to exclusively eat the leggy pieces but I will not be eating any of those. He stuck to the leggy ones! So nice! I also had the salmon BLT which was so good at the brown rice with pineapple as my side. I will forever make pineapple be an ingredient in my rice. He made a joke (or at least I think it was a joke) about how perhaps he will call out of work so he can spend the whole day with me. I kinda laughed the comment off because although I thoroughly enjoy his company and was looking forward to today's date, I still enjoy my independence and wasn't prepared to share my whole day pal-ing around with someone. I'm sure if I was gung-ho about the idea of him taking off, he would have. I'm not sure how I feel about that but we can revisit this idea later if need be.
The bill came and we talked for a bit. I didn't even notice that he had whipped out money about 10 minutes later. Of course I offered to pay and he declined. Good thing he did because I would have definitely judged him if he made me pay! We decided to walk around the town center a bit and I scored a halloween decoration that I've been looking for at Yankee Candle!!! I was very excited. We then walked over to Starbucks so I could get my PSL fix. I of course paid for coffee because I'm nice like that. We chatted some more while enjoying our Starbucks treats and then walked back to our cars. 2 kisses goodbye later and we were both in our respective cars.
We are due to meet again Monday morning at Iron Rooster in Annapolis for breakfast. I've heard 3 glowing recommendations to eat at this place within the past week. I'm pretty excited. I'm also going to offer to pay for him on this date. If he declines, major brownie points will be earned but it's ok if he takes me up on the offer. He's also going to be my date for the Stevie Wonder concert I have tickets to. I was holding off inviting people incase whatever this is that's happening continues to happen. Today I figured I would ask and if it all goes to crap before then, I'm sure I can find a back up some how. Hopefully it won't come to that but the 3rd date is usually where it all ends. Let's hope that we can get past Monday's breakfast or perhaps there will be a surprise third date tomorrow night. He doesn't get off work until 10 or 1030 tomorrow night so it would be a late night happening. I may be in bed by then.... I'll keep you all informed as usual!
I'm diggin' this one! It feels different and he keeps making appearances in my dreams nightly.
I met Ryan at Houlihans. I had never been there before but looked up their menu prior to going so I knew what I was in for. Everything on the menu looks delicious. So when I got there, he was already sitting in his car. I was greeted with a hug and a kiss on the cheek. SWEET!
So we shared calamari and like a good guy, he ate the leggy ones so I could enjoy the rings. I told him he didn't have to exclusively eat the leggy pieces but I will not be eating any of those. He stuck to the leggy ones! So nice! I also had the salmon BLT which was so good at the brown rice with pineapple as my side. I will forever make pineapple be an ingredient in my rice. He made a joke (or at least I think it was a joke) about how perhaps he will call out of work so he can spend the whole day with me. I kinda laughed the comment off because although I thoroughly enjoy his company and was looking forward to today's date, I still enjoy my independence and wasn't prepared to share my whole day pal-ing around with someone. I'm sure if I was gung-ho about the idea of him taking off, he would have. I'm not sure how I feel about that but we can revisit this idea later if need be.
The bill came and we talked for a bit. I didn't even notice that he had whipped out money about 10 minutes later. Of course I offered to pay and he declined. Good thing he did because I would have definitely judged him if he made me pay! We decided to walk around the town center a bit and I scored a halloween decoration that I've been looking for at Yankee Candle!!! I was very excited. We then walked over to Starbucks so I could get my PSL fix. I of course paid for coffee because I'm nice like that. We chatted some more while enjoying our Starbucks treats and then walked back to our cars. 2 kisses goodbye later and we were both in our respective cars.
We are due to meet again Monday morning at Iron Rooster in Annapolis for breakfast. I've heard 3 glowing recommendations to eat at this place within the past week. I'm pretty excited. I'm also going to offer to pay for him on this date. If he declines, major brownie points will be earned but it's ok if he takes me up on the offer. He's also going to be my date for the Stevie Wonder concert I have tickets to. I was holding off inviting people incase whatever this is that's happening continues to happen. Today I figured I would ask and if it all goes to crap before then, I'm sure I can find a back up some how. Hopefully it won't come to that but the 3rd date is usually where it all ends. Let's hope that we can get past Monday's breakfast or perhaps there will be a surprise third date tomorrow night. He doesn't get off work until 10 or 1030 tomorrow night so it would be a late night happening. I may be in bed by then.... I'll keep you all informed as usual!
I'm diggin' this one! It feels different and he keeps making appearances in my dreams nightly.
Saturday, September 5, 2015
Ryan, Oh Ryan!
OMG. Best guy I've met thus far.
Normal, nice, polite, easy conversationalist... wow! Keep reading for the deets!
Ok. so this guy, I met on match.com. This is the first guy I've ever met on that site and my subscription to the site was started on a whim. I also ended it a month or so back but I have a 6 month subscription so it officially ends on the 15th of this month.
So Ryan is his name (I know his last name being the detective that I am but he doesn't know that I know....) and he lives in Edgewater. He technically is married but has been separated for about 2 years or so and admits that there never should have been a relationship to begin with but circumstances and others influenced them when they were younger that made things happen..... sounded like he was pressured into marrying and was too young to speak up and say anything to the contrary.... any who, he has a 7 year old son that lives with mom in the Broadneck area most of the time. He can see him whenever he wants and he tends to get him 2 nights a week (on his days off). He's 42 and a manager at a restaurant in Annapolis. He's been in the restaurant business for 20+ years and he actually has a frickin' bachelors degree! This might be the first guy I have been on a date with that has a degree! :)
Ok, so we met at Chevy's in Annapolis at 6 for some dinner. Conversation was good. We discussed past horror date stories and what not. He paid, didn't even flinch when the check came. I, being the good date that I am, went for my wallet, but he said that he had it. :) He then suggested we go DTA (downtown Annapolis) to walk around and so we did. He offered to drive us both, and normally I wouldn't get into a car with a guy I don't know but I wasn't getting creepy vibes and I'm a fantastic judge of character so I took a chance. He drives a jeep and had all the windows and roof off. What a great evening to enjoy the openness. Oh, and he opens doors!!! Nice touch!
We went downtown and had good parking luck(thanks to me because that's my magic power) and parked right by the docks. We walked around, enjoyed a Starbucks beverage (I enjoyed my first Pumpkin Latte of the season) and we sat inside chatting some more. He asked me what time I needed to be back, and I told him that I was meeting a friend at Coconut Joe's at 9. I also told him he was more than welcome to join me if he wanted to. AND I genuinely meant that! :) Sometimes I say that because I feel like I should but this time I actually meant it. He said he would like to join me to CJ's (I just named it that, I like it!).
So I have to digress for a minute to my friend that was meeting me at CJ's. She has met another one of my online dates before when we went downtown Baltimore and it was an awful experience. I contemplated not telling her that Ryan was going to come along for fear that she would bail. I texted her to tell her he was coming but also added "he's not creepy" to the message. Thank goodness, she still agreed to go. :)
So Ryan brought me back to my car and I followed him to CJ's. Turns out he lives across the road from there. The three of us sat on the back patio area and enjoyed some frothy beverages. We each bought a round and chit chatted for about 3 hours. My friend said that she thought he was a nice guy and seemed to approve. I agreed with her that I felt the same.
He and I had some hand holding moments while at CJ's and we shared a kiss when he walked me back to my car. The following transcript is what took place via text messages after I had arrived home (*the smiley's are part of the actual response not my additions):
Me: I had fun. Thank you for a wonderful evening.
Ryan: I had a great time too. I definitely want to see you again. :)
Me: Same here. And the sooner the better. Although I'm not trying to rush things but I do enjoy your company.
Ryan: Me too. :) Let me look at my schedule for work tomorrow and we can figure out when we can get together again. I want to see you soon too.
Me: cool!
So... with all that said, I am looking forward to date 2, but my rule is if the date lasts longer than 3-4 hours it counts as a second date within one...so today would have been dates 1 and 2 and therefore, I'm looking forward to date number 3!
This guy has serious potential. Hopefully, I will be able to post a new blog full of more positiveness in the very near future.
P.S.--- sidenote*** the past two to three nights, I have had dreams of me being in a relationship or getting into one within the dream. Foreshadowing on real life? We shall see..... stay tuned loyal blog readers, stay tuned...
Normal, nice, polite, easy conversationalist... wow! Keep reading for the deets!
Ok. so this guy, I met on match.com. This is the first guy I've ever met on that site and my subscription to the site was started on a whim. I also ended it a month or so back but I have a 6 month subscription so it officially ends on the 15th of this month.
So Ryan is his name (I know his last name being the detective that I am but he doesn't know that I know....) and he lives in Edgewater. He technically is married but has been separated for about 2 years or so and admits that there never should have been a relationship to begin with but circumstances and others influenced them when they were younger that made things happen..... sounded like he was pressured into marrying and was too young to speak up and say anything to the contrary.... any who, he has a 7 year old son that lives with mom in the Broadneck area most of the time. He can see him whenever he wants and he tends to get him 2 nights a week (on his days off). He's 42 and a manager at a restaurant in Annapolis. He's been in the restaurant business for 20+ years and he actually has a frickin' bachelors degree! This might be the first guy I have been on a date with that has a degree! :)
Ok, so we met at Chevy's in Annapolis at 6 for some dinner. Conversation was good. We discussed past horror date stories and what not. He paid, didn't even flinch when the check came. I, being the good date that I am, went for my wallet, but he said that he had it. :) He then suggested we go DTA (downtown Annapolis) to walk around and so we did. He offered to drive us both, and normally I wouldn't get into a car with a guy I don't know but I wasn't getting creepy vibes and I'm a fantastic judge of character so I took a chance. He drives a jeep and had all the windows and roof off. What a great evening to enjoy the openness. Oh, and he opens doors!!! Nice touch!
We went downtown and had good parking luck(thanks to me because that's my magic power) and parked right by the docks. We walked around, enjoyed a Starbucks beverage (I enjoyed my first Pumpkin Latte of the season) and we sat inside chatting some more. He asked me what time I needed to be back, and I told him that I was meeting a friend at Coconut Joe's at 9. I also told him he was more than welcome to join me if he wanted to. AND I genuinely meant that! :) Sometimes I say that because I feel like I should but this time I actually meant it. He said he would like to join me to CJ's (I just named it that, I like it!).
So I have to digress for a minute to my friend that was meeting me at CJ's. She has met another one of my online dates before when we went downtown Baltimore and it was an awful experience. I contemplated not telling her that Ryan was going to come along for fear that she would bail. I texted her to tell her he was coming but also added "he's not creepy" to the message. Thank goodness, she still agreed to go. :)
So Ryan brought me back to my car and I followed him to CJ's. Turns out he lives across the road from there. The three of us sat on the back patio area and enjoyed some frothy beverages. We each bought a round and chit chatted for about 3 hours. My friend said that she thought he was a nice guy and seemed to approve. I agreed with her that I felt the same.
He and I had some hand holding moments while at CJ's and we shared a kiss when he walked me back to my car. The following transcript is what took place via text messages after I had arrived home (*the smiley's are part of the actual response not my additions):
Me: I had fun. Thank you for a wonderful evening.
Ryan: I had a great time too. I definitely want to see you again. :)
Me: Same here. And the sooner the better. Although I'm not trying to rush things but I do enjoy your company.
Ryan: Me too. :) Let me look at my schedule for work tomorrow and we can figure out when we can get together again. I want to see you soon too.
Me: cool!
So... with all that said, I am looking forward to date 2, but my rule is if the date lasts longer than 3-4 hours it counts as a second date within one...so today would have been dates 1 and 2 and therefore, I'm looking forward to date number 3!
This guy has serious potential. Hopefully, I will be able to post a new blog full of more positiveness in the very near future.
P.S.--- sidenote*** the past two to three nights, I have had dreams of me being in a relationship or getting into one within the dream. Foreshadowing on real life? We shall see..... stay tuned loyal blog readers, stay tuned...
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