First, I'm not revealing his name because he is on my Facebook as a friend. A couple of you know his name because I have referred to him in person to you. A couple others of you might figure it out. Regardless, please don't ruin anything by mentioning him by name on FB. Let's call him... Hmmmm...... Mister Myster(y) for now. I'm also not going to give away too many of his personal details so there's less to connect to anyone in particular. However, everything I do mention will be fact, aside from his name. He has no idea I have a blog nor am I ready to divulge that information. Ok, so with that said...let's begin.
Mister Myster(y) and I grew up in the same neighborhood. I use to babysit near his house and all us "kids" would hang out together and play flashlight tag, football and whatever else when times were different and we could do that kind of stuff. He is 2 and a half years younger than I am and therefore, the gap back then seemed huge. I was in high school and he was still in middle school when we first met. I thought he was cute back then, but the age difference was a no-go in actuality. We never really hung out or talked as we got older because when I was a senior, he was a freshman. Once I graduated from high school, I never saw him or talked to him again. I often wondered what happened to him. Did he move out of state? Is he married with kids? Is he locked up?
I looked for him on Facebook many times but never came across his profile so I figured either he is in fact locked up, or he just isn't into social media. I couldn't for the life of me remember his brother's name so I couldn't go through that route either. I had no idea who he would be friends with in order to find degrees of separation connections to him. So I figured it was a lost cause. Well, the night before we were anticipating Blizzard Jonas (Saturday night I believe) I was bored and my mind was going all over the place. He popped into mind so I figured I would make another attempt. Low and behold, he was the first one in the list of people. So strange that after all the times that I had attempted to look for him he just appears at the top this time. So I sent him a friend request and figured it would take some time for him to accept and what not. Perhaps he wouldn't even remember me or wouldn't be interested in catching up. Well, within five minutes, he accepted and we were exchanging messages; catching up with one another's lives. He now lives in Baltimore (about 25 minutes from me). He has a daughter (either 9 or 10). He's not married and never has been.
We were suppose to meet up last weekend but the day before, his truck broke down and he had to spend the weekend getting it repaired. We rescheduled for this past Friday but his daughter had split her head open and needed stitches so he had to head to the hospital for her. I then invited him to go to Twain's Tavern with me and my friends for Saturday night. He originally said yes but then got nervous or something as the day went on. We decided that it would be best to meet up just one-on-one on Sunday (today) so that's what we did, finally!
We met at The Greene Turtle (I love me some fried pickles from there). He was waiting in his truck when I pulled into the lot. He looks pretty much the same now as he did back then plus a few extra pounds, but not as much extra pounds as I have so I can't fault him for that! He has a bit less hair too, but it's understandable. Father Time is not kind and aging is a B! He also has one "bad" tooth... but I seem to recall that was the case back in the day as well. It's bothersome, but not a deal breaker. (yes, I just said that!) I initiated a welcome-good-to-see-you-after-20-years hug and we went in. He held the door open not only for me but for the woman behind me as well. Conversation was easy and breezy. We've been catching up with one another's lives over text messages for the past few weeks since we reconnected and continued to learn more about one another as adults today. After being at TGT for awhile, he had to get going to help his mom with stuff ("You only get one mom in life so you need to help her out when you can."-Mister Myster(y)) and I had to get back to procrastinating doing school work ("It'll get done!"-Me).
When we left, he initiated the goodbye hug. I said that we should get together again soon. He said sooner rather than later and he will be sending me a message in a few minutes. I wasn't sure what message was going to be sent to me considering he could have said what he wanted to say while I was there...but I went with it. After about a half hour or so, I guess when he got home, he texted me to say that he had a good time with me and he looks forward to spending more time with me. So nice!
Is this a match made in heaven? Not yet. Will it ever be? Who knows? But, it's nice to catch up with someone from your past and see what happens. There is a red flag or two... ok, perhaps they're not red yet. Let's go with ballet slipper flags.... pale pink, not even hot pink. So not red, but could be on it's way headed there. I'm just not sure yet how big of a problem the flag items might be. It's only been date one and yes, typically I'm dismissive over things like a wonky tooth even on date one, but I'm learning and growing. Plus I take advice from my friends to heart (sometimes) and have learned that I need to be a bit more understanding and not so judgmental right out of the gate.
I'm always game for something new and exciting... which might be the reason for my singledomness. Perhaps he will change that status. We shall see!
Sunday, February 7, 2016
Sunday, January 3, 2016
Date 2 with Justin
Alrighty..... well, I thought I would have been posting a date blog sooner than this but Justin works late sometimes and often has a 2 hour commute. He doesn't feel up to heading out anywhere after he gets home around 8 or later. I can't blame him. I come home at 4 (sometimes 3:30) and immediately get into PJ's and that's where I hibernate until the next morning. Don't judge!
So, I had told him earlier in the week that I was thinking about sitting myself at The Greene Turtle to watch the Skins beat Dallas today. He said that he would keep me company if I didn't mind a tag-a-long. I was surprised by his offer because he doesn't like and isn't into football. I appreciated the gesture that he wanted to spend time with me and would put up with football to do so. :) I told him he was more than welcome to attend anything he wished with me but I hope I didn't have to wait until Sunday (today) to see him. He said something about getting sushi or asked if I liked sushi. I told him that I heard sushi was like wine; there's a type out there for everyone I just haven't tried enough to figure out if I like it or not. Well, I thought that this meant that he would have invited me to dinner prior to today, but he didn't. That's ok. It all worked out fine in the end.
So, since I am in-between his house and TGT, he said he would pick me up. I was outside waiting for him since my house is a mess and I didn't want to let him catch any glimpse of what a disaster it is at the moment. His car is spotless, just like his apartment. I started to think that perhaps he was a bit OCD and his cleanliness wasn't just "Army related". He had a huge box in the back. He told me it was headlights for his car that are the wrong size and he hasn't gotten around to shipping them back yet because he is waiting to see if Amazon will figure out a way to lessen the expense (this box will be mentioned later on...) . On the way out of my community, my friend Marina was in the car behind us. He thought that was an interesting coincidence. I told him it's a very small community!
When we got to TGT all the bar seats were taken so we sat in a booth. It worked out. I appreciated that I didn't have to wear my glasses since there was a TV in our booth. :) We shared fried pickles, crab dip and chicken wings. I discovered that he is not a fan of sauces: no ketchup, no ranch dressing, not really anything. I thought that was interesting. I also discovered that I was only his second date from an online dating site. The first was almost a year ago when he first moved to the area and there was nothing really there. He had deleted his account and just recently (within the past 3-4 weeks) put a profile back up. I filled him in on the details of me being a professional online dater (no mention of the blog was discussed- he won't tell me his birthday so I don't need to divulge blog deets), and told him some of my dating horror stories. The leg rubber/touchy feely guy was mentioned, as was the guy with the flames on his shirt and Mr. Halitosis. Mr. Halitosis might have occurred prior to the blog... it was a LONG ways back! Anyway, we chatted for a while and I could tell he was getting a bit bored, as was I but it was closing in on the end of the game. I asked if he could hold out 11 more play minutes which is like 20 or so more real minutes and he said it was no problem. I told him I would buy him coffee at Starbucks when the game was over. "Deal!"
We walked over to Starbucks where we ran into Marina's son, Patrick! I told him it was a very small community and you are bound to run into someone you know no matter where you go. I bought him a coffee and he described to me what a flat white was. I'm so much smarter now. I tried to order a Holiday Spice Flat White, but they were out of the holiday stuff since they are moving it on out. I went with my go-to: Peppermint Mocha, no whip, super-super hot!
On the way back to the car, he told me that the next time we get together (yay, he's talking future sense) if I see the box in his backseat (see, the box...it's baaack) then I need to give him hell for it because that means he's been lazy and he needs to do something with it. I told him I could do that! Being bossy is kinda my thing.... just ask Marina! I was hoping that he would suggest sitting and chatting some more because I enjoy his company but he didn't. That was ok. It was a bit chilly but tolerable in the sun. I needed to get home to feed the pup anyway.
So he dropped me off at my house and there was no kiss or anything. There was no attempt that seemed to be made. I texted him once I got in the house and said "thanks." I also told him that I really wanted to kiss him. He said that he was very conscious of the fact that he needed to brush his teeth otherwise he maybe would've tried. I took this opportunity to ask him if he was a bit germaphobic and/or OCD. He said that he's really weird about hygiene and avoids exposing anyone to his non-hygienic self. He also said he considers himself borderline OCD, but that it all seems perfectly normal to him and he just likes to be extra clean. I can get with that but that is so the opposite of me. I definitely need to clean, clean, clean if he is ever going to be stepping foot into my house!
I'm definitely looking forward to seeing him again. I can't wait to spend more time with him and get to know him better. :) I'm hoping there's a Justin Blog Number 3!
So, I had told him earlier in the week that I was thinking about sitting myself at The Greene Turtle to watch the Skins beat Dallas today. He said that he would keep me company if I didn't mind a tag-a-long. I was surprised by his offer because he doesn't like and isn't into football. I appreciated the gesture that he wanted to spend time with me and would put up with football to do so. :) I told him he was more than welcome to attend anything he wished with me but I hope I didn't have to wait until Sunday (today) to see him. He said something about getting sushi or asked if I liked sushi. I told him that I heard sushi was like wine; there's a type out there for everyone I just haven't tried enough to figure out if I like it or not. Well, I thought that this meant that he would have invited me to dinner prior to today, but he didn't. That's ok. It all worked out fine in the end.
So, since I am in-between his house and TGT, he said he would pick me up. I was outside waiting for him since my house is a mess and I didn't want to let him catch any glimpse of what a disaster it is at the moment. His car is spotless, just like his apartment. I started to think that perhaps he was a bit OCD and his cleanliness wasn't just "Army related". He had a huge box in the back. He told me it was headlights for his car that are the wrong size and he hasn't gotten around to shipping them back yet because he is waiting to see if Amazon will figure out a way to lessen the expense (this box will be mentioned later on...) . On the way out of my community, my friend Marina was in the car behind us. He thought that was an interesting coincidence. I told him it's a very small community!
When we got to TGT all the bar seats were taken so we sat in a booth. It worked out. I appreciated that I didn't have to wear my glasses since there was a TV in our booth. :) We shared fried pickles, crab dip and chicken wings. I discovered that he is not a fan of sauces: no ketchup, no ranch dressing, not really anything. I thought that was interesting. I also discovered that I was only his second date from an online dating site. The first was almost a year ago when he first moved to the area and there was nothing really there. He had deleted his account and just recently (within the past 3-4 weeks) put a profile back up. I filled him in on the details of me being a professional online dater (no mention of the blog was discussed- he won't tell me his birthday so I don't need to divulge blog deets), and told him some of my dating horror stories. The leg rubber/touchy feely guy was mentioned, as was the guy with the flames on his shirt and Mr. Halitosis. Mr. Halitosis might have occurred prior to the blog... it was a LONG ways back! Anyway, we chatted for a while and I could tell he was getting a bit bored, as was I but it was closing in on the end of the game. I asked if he could hold out 11 more play minutes which is like 20 or so more real minutes and he said it was no problem. I told him I would buy him coffee at Starbucks when the game was over. "Deal!"
We walked over to Starbucks where we ran into Marina's son, Patrick! I told him it was a very small community and you are bound to run into someone you know no matter where you go. I bought him a coffee and he described to me what a flat white was. I'm so much smarter now. I tried to order a Holiday Spice Flat White, but they were out of the holiday stuff since they are moving it on out. I went with my go-to: Peppermint Mocha, no whip, super-super hot!
On the way back to the car, he told me that the next time we get together (yay, he's talking future sense) if I see the box in his backseat (see, the box...it's baaack) then I need to give him hell for it because that means he's been lazy and he needs to do something with it. I told him I could do that! Being bossy is kinda my thing.... just ask Marina! I was hoping that he would suggest sitting and chatting some more because I enjoy his company but he didn't. That was ok. It was a bit chilly but tolerable in the sun. I needed to get home to feed the pup anyway.
So he dropped me off at my house and there was no kiss or anything. There was no attempt that seemed to be made. I texted him once I got in the house and said "thanks." I also told him that I really wanted to kiss him. He said that he was very conscious of the fact that he needed to brush his teeth otherwise he maybe would've tried. I took this opportunity to ask him if he was a bit germaphobic and/or OCD. He said that he's really weird about hygiene and avoids exposing anyone to his non-hygienic self. He also said he considers himself borderline OCD, but that it all seems perfectly normal to him and he just likes to be extra clean. I can get with that but that is so the opposite of me. I definitely need to clean, clean, clean if he is ever going to be stepping foot into my house!
I'm definitely looking forward to seeing him again. I can't wait to spend more time with him and get to know him better. :) I'm hoping there's a Justin Blog Number 3!
Sunday, December 27, 2015
The Most Amazing Person Ever!
Ok, so this guy's name is Justin. He lives around the corner from me. He is originally from South Dakota, YES! SOUTH DAKOTA! He was in the Army for 5 years and has been out for 1 (or 2). He came to this area because of working opportunities. He works as a Russian translator for a government contracting company. As he says, he does "Russiany things". He's crazy smart. He knows three languages besides English (Russian, German and Arabic) and he's traveled all over the place.
The date: We went to some rinky dink, hole-in-the-wall place called Buck Murphy's. It is such a hole-in-the-wall place that they don't even accept credit cards. They admit they are stuck in the 60's. The majority of the customers in there were over the age of 70. I ordered a beer and they did in fact, to my surprise, have Sam Adams but they only had Octoberfest-OCTOBERfest. :) I was ok with that because that's my favorite but I thought it was funny. We chatted about everything imaginable.... family, past relationships, work, etc. He probably knows more about me at this point than some of my friends.
There was an old guy in there that was highly entertaining and he was thrilled to have met someone from South Dakota. He kept playing old songs on the radio from the 60's and was impressed that I knew them. He told Justin that he needed to marry me and not let me go. Justin's response was "that's a very interesting comment." I thought it was pretty funny.
The Redskins game came on while we were sitting there and Justin isn't a football fan but we chatted and watched a bit and listened to the other bar patrons complain and argue a bit. At one point, and I might be the only one to notice this but two players were on the screen at the same time. One was number 76 and the other was 67. I said "oh, look, 7667." Justin chuckled and said "That's an interesting observation. Are you a fan of palindromes?" My reply was "Yes, Actually I am." He said that my eyes got so big and I got really excited when he asked me that. He got to see some of my .... uniqueness, if you will.
There were many, many funny moments. Conversation was easy, comfortable and just enjoyable. We both decided we needed a change of locales. I told him if he wanted to head home and go our separate ways thats fine if he wanted to call it a night. He said that he actually wanted to spend more time with me if I was up for it. I was game! Neither one of us wanted to go to another bar or eat so we went to his place. His apartment is spotless! OMG! It looked like a hotel room. He has the most amazing wall art and "things" all around. He has Matryoshka (nesting) dolls which I love and he was impressed I knew the actual name of! He has the most awesome chair- http://www.lovesac.com/sacs.html. It's amazingly comfortable. I could have definitely fallen asleep very easily there. We watched a bit of TV and then there may have been some small happenings of a make out session. By the time I left his place it was 1 or 130. The date began at 530. I call that a success!
We chatted throughout today, like we have been and there's no set time or place for our next date just yet but I think sushi is the plan. I like this one, immensely! I hope he sticks around.
Oh, the one downfall is that he is allergic to cats. So am I, so hopefully it's not too bad of an allergy. He says it's been awhile since he's been around a cat so he's not sure how allergic he is or how severe the symptoms are... I'm hoping it's copeable-which is not a word, but it should be so I'm keeping it!
Stay tuned... I hope there are many more blogs to come with Justin being the topic.
The date: We went to some rinky dink, hole-in-the-wall place called Buck Murphy's. It is such a hole-in-the-wall place that they don't even accept credit cards. They admit they are stuck in the 60's. The majority of the customers in there were over the age of 70. I ordered a beer and they did in fact, to my surprise, have Sam Adams but they only had Octoberfest-OCTOBERfest. :) I was ok with that because that's my favorite but I thought it was funny. We chatted about everything imaginable.... family, past relationships, work, etc. He probably knows more about me at this point than some of my friends.
There was an old guy in there that was highly entertaining and he was thrilled to have met someone from South Dakota. He kept playing old songs on the radio from the 60's and was impressed that I knew them. He told Justin that he needed to marry me and not let me go. Justin's response was "that's a very interesting comment." I thought it was pretty funny.
The Redskins game came on while we were sitting there and Justin isn't a football fan but we chatted and watched a bit and listened to the other bar patrons complain and argue a bit. At one point, and I might be the only one to notice this but two players were on the screen at the same time. One was number 76 and the other was 67. I said "oh, look, 7667." Justin chuckled and said "That's an interesting observation. Are you a fan of palindromes?" My reply was "Yes, Actually I am." He said that my eyes got so big and I got really excited when he asked me that. He got to see some of my .... uniqueness, if you will.
There were many, many funny moments. Conversation was easy, comfortable and just enjoyable. We both decided we needed a change of locales. I told him if he wanted to head home and go our separate ways thats fine if he wanted to call it a night. He said that he actually wanted to spend more time with me if I was up for it. I was game! Neither one of us wanted to go to another bar or eat so we went to his place. His apartment is spotless! OMG! It looked like a hotel room. He has the most amazing wall art and "things" all around. He has Matryoshka (nesting) dolls which I love and he was impressed I knew the actual name of! He has the most awesome chair- http://www.lovesac.com/sacs.html. It's amazingly comfortable. I could have definitely fallen asleep very easily there. We watched a bit of TV and then there may have been some small happenings of a make out session. By the time I left his place it was 1 or 130. The date began at 530. I call that a success!
We chatted throughout today, like we have been and there's no set time or place for our next date just yet but I think sushi is the plan. I like this one, immensely! I hope he sticks around.
Oh, the one downfall is that he is allergic to cats. So am I, so hopefully it's not too bad of an allergy. He says it's been awhile since he's been around a cat so he's not sure how allergic he is or how severe the symptoms are... I'm hoping it's copeable-which is not a word, but it should be so I'm keeping it!
Stay tuned... I hope there are many more blogs to come with Justin being the topic.
Saturday, December 19, 2015
Second Date with Latino Carlos
So, I decided to show him the greatness that is The Hideaway. We decided to get there at 9 to watch Karaoke. He was there at 9:05. :) I'm so glad that he wasn't super late. Lateness drives me nuts. He liked the atmosphere of The Hideaway right away. I got the homemade apple pie ice-cream. I thought it was good but lacked the taste I was expecting, especially with all the hype around it.
Anywho, I learned a couple things about him. First, he is afraid of animals particularly dogs. He was bitten by several dogs when he was young. He now understands that the dogs were just tugging on his pants and were playing but that traumatized him so much that he is terrified of any dog, any size. That's not going to work for me. This might be the deal breaker!
Also, he is afraid of commitment, but so am I. This is not a deal breaker but good to know. We should both be wearing "approach with caution" signs at all times.
He paid for the date again, and I got to see his tipping skills. He is a FANTASTIC tipper. The bill was about $30 and he put a $10 tip on it. :) A+++ for that!
The plan for Sunday was to go to see Miracle on 34th Street in the theaters. However, I think I would enjoy it more if I went alone. I enjoy Carlos' company but still prefer the movies alone. I feel very comfortable around him and feel like I can be my silly self and he doesn't mind. I'm not sure what the future beholds but him being afraid of dogs is a big flag since my dog is my life! Perhaps I can be the Latino Whiisperer and Molly will be the cure to his fright. :) We shall see......
Anywho, I learned a couple things about him. First, he is afraid of animals particularly dogs. He was bitten by several dogs when he was young. He now understands that the dogs were just tugging on his pants and were playing but that traumatized him so much that he is terrified of any dog, any size. That's not going to work for me. This might be the deal breaker!
Also, he is afraid of commitment, but so am I. This is not a deal breaker but good to know. We should both be wearing "approach with caution" signs at all times.
He paid for the date again, and I got to see his tipping skills. He is a FANTASTIC tipper. The bill was about $30 and he put a $10 tip on it. :) A+++ for that!
The plan for Sunday was to go to see Miracle on 34th Street in the theaters. However, I think I would enjoy it more if I went alone. I enjoy Carlos' company but still prefer the movies alone. I feel very comfortable around him and feel like I can be my silly self and he doesn't mind. I'm not sure what the future beholds but him being afraid of dogs is a big flag since my dog is my life! Perhaps I can be the Latino Whiisperer and Molly will be the cure to his fright. :) We shall see......
Saturday, December 5, 2015
Latino Carlos
Ok, so.... I set up a date for today. Some background information first. He is 35. He was born in El Salvador and came to the U.S. when he was 15. Became a U.S. citizen at 20. He just moved within the past 2 weeks from Silver Spring area to Severn so that he could work for his brother and be around to help his parents (especially his mom) out. His mom went through radiation treatments recently and he is now staying with them for the time being. He doesn't have kids and never been married or as I like to call these specially men, he's a "unicorn".
Ok so.... the date. We went to The Greene Turtle. I got there WAY early and he was about 5 minutes late, noon was the agreed upon meeting time. He apologized profusely even though he admits that he's never on time for anything due to being bad at managing time!
I thought we would only be there for an hour or so. Well, 2 beers and an order of fried pickles later (you can't go to The Greene Turtle and NOT have fried pickles).... it was 2. The time went by so fast. We talked about everything from family members, to past relationships, to hobbies. He hasn't been on the online dating scene so we couldn't share horror stories. He thinks that everyone has the best of intentions and I'm the opposite. I'm a bit more realistic than he is but then again, I've been "out there" way more than he has. He's so sweet and optimistic. Pretty much the opposite of me. :) I kind like it! While we were talking, there were times where he would touch my arm or hand and I didn't mind. :) That's a good sign!
He probably would have had another beer if I was willing, but I want to head to IKEA which I thought I was going to do around 2 with a friend but that friend isn't returning my call so.... I told him I had to get going and couldn't have another Sam Adams or else this "date" would turn bad!
When the check came, I went to grab it to see how much it was and he put his hand on top of it and pulled it away and said I don't need to worry about it. :) EXECUTED PERFECTLY!
He walked me to my car and we hugged good bye. He said for me to let him know if I want to do this again. I later texted him and said thanks and that I hoped to see him again soon. I told him he was in charge of picking the next time and place. So it's up to him. He said he would think of some place fun to go to.... Hopefully there will be another Latino update before Christmas! We shall see...
Ok so.... the date. We went to The Greene Turtle. I got there WAY early and he was about 5 minutes late, noon was the agreed upon meeting time. He apologized profusely even though he admits that he's never on time for anything due to being bad at managing time!
I thought we would only be there for an hour or so. Well, 2 beers and an order of fried pickles later (you can't go to The Greene Turtle and NOT have fried pickles).... it was 2. The time went by so fast. We talked about everything from family members, to past relationships, to hobbies. He hasn't been on the online dating scene so we couldn't share horror stories. He thinks that everyone has the best of intentions and I'm the opposite. I'm a bit more realistic than he is but then again, I've been "out there" way more than he has. He's so sweet and optimistic. Pretty much the opposite of me. :) I kind like it! While we were talking, there were times where he would touch my arm or hand and I didn't mind. :) That's a good sign!
He probably would have had another beer if I was willing, but I want to head to IKEA which I thought I was going to do around 2 with a friend but that friend isn't returning my call so.... I told him I had to get going and couldn't have another Sam Adams or else this "date" would turn bad!
When the check came, I went to grab it to see how much it was and he put his hand on top of it and pulled it away and said I don't need to worry about it. :) EXECUTED PERFECTLY!
He walked me to my car and we hugged good bye. He said for me to let him know if I want to do this again. I later texted him and said thanks and that I hoped to see him again soon. I told him he was in charge of picking the next time and place. So it's up to him. He said he would think of some place fun to go to.... Hopefully there will be another Latino update before Christmas! We shall see...
Saturday, October 10, 2015
Second Chance First Date
So, in my last blog I mentioned that I reached out to Ryan to see if he'd like to meet again. Well, last night was that meet up.
He came to my house after work so he could change. He kissed me hello (nothing fancy or french)...which I'm ok with. He changed and then we headed to The Hideaway for some Karaoke watching. It was incredibly loud in there but we enjoyed some good food and a frothy beverage. After about an hour, I asked him if he wanted to hit up a movie. He paid for the meal, and I discovered that he's not the best tipper. I thought that he was because on a previous date, at the Iron Rooster, the waiter came by our table and thanked us again, so I thought that was because he was very generous on the tip. Well, the bill was $36 something. I asked if he wanted me to pay the tip since the waitress only brought back big bills in change. He told me that the tip is $7. Um, NO! The tip is at least $8! I tipped $10! I figured maybe I could set a precedent for any future tippage.
Now, invited someone (anyone) to a movie with me is not my thing because I enjoy the movies alone for a number of reasons which I may or may not have explained in a really old blog. One reason is when the lights go down, my inner "lioness", if you will, goes up and I get distracted and can't enjoy the movie. Well, there was no lioness, tigress or any other big-cat-ness happening at the theater...just the movie. I got more turned on by seeing Matt Damon's scrawny hind parts on the screen than my company. I'm not sure what this means just yet.
When we left the theater it was 1am and I was kinda tired. If I was with other company I could have been persuaded to have another frothy beverage at The Greene Turtle before closing time, but I wasn't feeling it. Therefore, I drove him back to my house and he had to come in to get his clothes and what not.
I came in and took care of my Doghter. He sorta stood by the door, perhaps waiting to see if I was going to invite him to stay a bit... I wasn't. I gave the ol' "Ok, well.... thanks for tonight and I'll let you know how tomorrow goes" spiel. He went in for another American kiss and then did his weird putting his forehead on mine and it's just weird. I don't know if he was trying to get a bit more French, Eskimo, or just wanted to linger there. It's awkward. I did not like that and it's not the first time he's done that. It happens just about every time it's a "goodbye" type of thing. It's just weird to me. I'm not sure what it is. Is it he is hoping for more of a make out session? Is it his way of being "cute"? I don't know why it bugs me so much either! I could easily say that I am just not feeling it.... but I'm still willing to "date" and just see if feelings change. Not sure if they will, but you never know. I want butterflies and I'm not getting anything that flutters.
We shall see....
He came to my house after work so he could change. He kissed me hello (nothing fancy or french)...which I'm ok with. He changed and then we headed to The Hideaway for some Karaoke watching. It was incredibly loud in there but we enjoyed some good food and a frothy beverage. After about an hour, I asked him if he wanted to hit up a movie. He paid for the meal, and I discovered that he's not the best tipper. I thought that he was because on a previous date, at the Iron Rooster, the waiter came by our table and thanked us again, so I thought that was because he was very generous on the tip. Well, the bill was $36 something. I asked if he wanted me to pay the tip since the waitress only brought back big bills in change. He told me that the tip is $7. Um, NO! The tip is at least $8! I tipped $10! I figured maybe I could set a precedent for any future tippage.
Now, invited someone (anyone) to a movie with me is not my thing because I enjoy the movies alone for a number of reasons which I may or may not have explained in a really old blog. One reason is when the lights go down, my inner "lioness", if you will, goes up and I get distracted and can't enjoy the movie. Well, there was no lioness, tigress or any other big-cat-ness happening at the theater...just the movie. I got more turned on by seeing Matt Damon's scrawny hind parts on the screen than my company. I'm not sure what this means just yet.
When we left the theater it was 1am and I was kinda tired. If I was with other company I could have been persuaded to have another frothy beverage at The Greene Turtle before closing time, but I wasn't feeling it. Therefore, I drove him back to my house and he had to come in to get his clothes and what not.
I came in and took care of my Doghter. He sorta stood by the door, perhaps waiting to see if I was going to invite him to stay a bit... I wasn't. I gave the ol' "Ok, well.... thanks for tonight and I'll let you know how tomorrow goes" spiel. He went in for another American kiss and then did his weird putting his forehead on mine and it's just weird. I don't know if he was trying to get a bit more French, Eskimo, or just wanted to linger there. It's awkward. I did not like that and it's not the first time he's done that. It happens just about every time it's a "goodbye" type of thing. It's just weird to me. I'm not sure what it is. Is it he is hoping for more of a make out session? Is it his way of being "cute"? I don't know why it bugs me so much either! I could easily say that I am just not feeling it.... but I'm still willing to "date" and just see if feelings change. Not sure if they will, but you never know. I want butterflies and I'm not getting anything that flutters.
We shall see....
Monday, October 5, 2015
The Boomerang Effect and Ryan Rebound
So, first...let me fill in some gaps that seem to have occurred. When I left off, I wasn't sure how I felt about Ryan and was up in the air about where it would go. I told Ryan that I wasn't sure how I felt and that I wanted to spend time with him and enjoyed his company but I just wasn't sure if that was because I would enjoy anyone's companionship because I enjoy doing things and it's better with company so I was getting friend vibes but was willing to continue to see if those feelings grew. I told him that Stevie Wonder was still a go as long as he was ok with still going. He said that he didn't feel comfortable so I found someone else to attend. Ryan also said he wanted to stay in touch though which confused me because if you don't feel comfortable going to a concert with me, why would you want to stay in touch? Anyway, I said ok and found a replacement date for Stevie Wonder....which brings me to my next dramatic matter that's going to get a whole bunch of people riled up for many different reasons but here we go......
So, Boomerang is a guy I met about 8 to 9 years ago now. I call him Boomerang (and yes, he know this is his nickname given by me) because I keep throwing him out of my life and he keeps coming back in, like a boomerang! It took me a good solid 2-3 years to tear through all the lies that Boomerang told me at the beginning of our "relationship" and discover the truth about him which is that he is married and in an open relationship. I have verified this is true and that his wife couldn't careless about the ins and outs of what he does with others since there really is no relationship/marriage at the home front, just two people staying together for the kids' sake. So, despite all the BS from Boomerang, we have grown closer and know and understand each other as well as any two people can. I feel comfortable with him, always have even with his lies and BS. Now, my friends that know me best feel that I feel comfortable with him because he's of no commitment threat since he's already spoken for. I agree with this to a degree.
Before Boomerang, I was with Jose. Jose and I moved pretty fast into a relationship and moving in together. We didn't spend time truly getting to know one another and that led to huge problems throughout the 11 months we were together. However, I felt comfortable with him from the very first time I met him. One could argue that I felt comfortable with him because he lived 2 hours away so I still had my "freedom" and therefore there still was no immediate commitment threat. But, I was never put off by his affection, him wanting to hold hands or cuddle.... same with Boomerang. I've always been comfortable with both of those past guys.
I digress.... Boomerang is the reason I decided to reach out to Ryan again. I was talking to Boomerang about Ryan and he mentioned that I seemed to be coming up with a lot of random faults. He said "are you sure the problem is him and not you?" Well, that made me think twice. I know I have problems opening up to people and letting my guard down, but it made me start thinking that perhaps I ended things prematurely and for frivolous things. So, last night I sent Ryan a text that in summary said that I think I got scared that we were moving too fast and I didn't want to rush things and have things end like they've done before or rush into things before we really know one another and be blind sided later on by things (aka a Jose situation). He got back to me and said he knows that he can rush things but he can also be patient. He also said that he likes me a lot and "would most definitely like to see [me] again." So, we will most likely meet up Friday night somewhere simple and just chill. Not Netflix and chill....just chill.... in public.... and fully clothed!
Stay tuned.....
So, Boomerang is a guy I met about 8 to 9 years ago now. I call him Boomerang (and yes, he know this is his nickname given by me) because I keep throwing him out of my life and he keeps coming back in, like a boomerang! It took me a good solid 2-3 years to tear through all the lies that Boomerang told me at the beginning of our "relationship" and discover the truth about him which is that he is married and in an open relationship. I have verified this is true and that his wife couldn't careless about the ins and outs of what he does with others since there really is no relationship/marriage at the home front, just two people staying together for the kids' sake. So, despite all the BS from Boomerang, we have grown closer and know and understand each other as well as any two people can. I feel comfortable with him, always have even with his lies and BS. Now, my friends that know me best feel that I feel comfortable with him because he's of no commitment threat since he's already spoken for. I agree with this to a degree.
Before Boomerang, I was with Jose. Jose and I moved pretty fast into a relationship and moving in together. We didn't spend time truly getting to know one another and that led to huge problems throughout the 11 months we were together. However, I felt comfortable with him from the very first time I met him. One could argue that I felt comfortable with him because he lived 2 hours away so I still had my "freedom" and therefore there still was no immediate commitment threat. But, I was never put off by his affection, him wanting to hold hands or cuddle.... same with Boomerang. I've always been comfortable with both of those past guys.
I digress.... Boomerang is the reason I decided to reach out to Ryan again. I was talking to Boomerang about Ryan and he mentioned that I seemed to be coming up with a lot of random faults. He said "are you sure the problem is him and not you?" Well, that made me think twice. I know I have problems opening up to people and letting my guard down, but it made me start thinking that perhaps I ended things prematurely and for frivolous things. So, last night I sent Ryan a text that in summary said that I think I got scared that we were moving too fast and I didn't want to rush things and have things end like they've done before or rush into things before we really know one another and be blind sided later on by things (aka a Jose situation). He got back to me and said he knows that he can rush things but he can also be patient. He also said that he likes me a lot and "would most definitely like to see [me] again." So, we will most likely meet up Friday night somewhere simple and just chill. Not Netflix and chill....just chill.... in public.... and fully clothed!
Stay tuned.....
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