First, I'm not revealing his name because he is on my Facebook as a friend. A couple of you know his name because I have referred to him in person to you. A couple others of you might figure it out. Regardless, please don't ruin anything by mentioning him by name on FB. Let's call him... Hmmmm...... Mister Myster(y) for now. I'm also not going to give away too many of his personal details so there's less to connect to anyone in particular. However, everything I do mention will be fact, aside from his name. He has no idea I have a blog nor am I ready to divulge that information. Ok, so with that said...let's begin.
Mister Myster(y) and I grew up in the same neighborhood. I use to babysit near his house and all us "kids" would hang out together and play flashlight tag, football and whatever else when times were different and we could do that kind of stuff. He is 2 and a half years younger than I am and therefore, the gap back then seemed huge. I was in high school and he was still in middle school when we first met. I thought he was cute back then, but the age difference was a no-go in actuality. We never really hung out or talked as we got older because when I was a senior, he was a freshman. Once I graduated from high school, I never saw him or talked to him again. I often wondered what happened to him. Did he move out of state? Is he married with kids? Is he locked up?
I looked for him on Facebook many times but never came across his profile so I figured either he is in fact locked up, or he just isn't into social media. I couldn't for the life of me remember his brother's name so I couldn't go through that route either. I had no idea who he would be friends with in order to find degrees of separation connections to him. So I figured it was a lost cause. Well, the night before we were anticipating Blizzard Jonas (Saturday night I believe) I was bored and my mind was going all over the place. He popped into mind so I figured I would make another attempt. Low and behold, he was the first one in the list of people. So strange that after all the times that I had attempted to look for him he just appears at the top this time. So I sent him a friend request and figured it would take some time for him to accept and what not. Perhaps he wouldn't even remember me or wouldn't be interested in catching up. Well, within five minutes, he accepted and we were exchanging messages; catching up with one another's lives. He now lives in Baltimore (about 25 minutes from me). He has a daughter (either 9 or 10). He's not married and never has been.
We were suppose to meet up last weekend but the day before, his truck broke down and he had to spend the weekend getting it repaired. We rescheduled for this past Friday but his daughter had split her head open and needed stitches so he had to head to the hospital for her. I then invited him to go to Twain's Tavern with me and my friends for Saturday night. He originally said yes but then got nervous or something as the day went on. We decided that it would be best to meet up just one-on-one on Sunday (today) so that's what we did, finally!
We met at The Greene Turtle (I love me some fried pickles from there). He was waiting in his truck when I pulled into the lot. He looks pretty much the same now as he did back then plus a few extra pounds, but not as much extra pounds as I have so I can't fault him for that! He has a bit less hair too, but it's understandable. Father Time is not kind and aging is a B! He also has one "bad" tooth... but I seem to recall that was the case back in the day as well. It's bothersome, but not a deal breaker. (yes, I just said that!) I initiated a welcome-good-to-see-you-after-20-years hug and we went in. He held the door open not only for me but for the woman behind me as well. Conversation was easy and breezy. We've been catching up with one another's lives over text messages for the past few weeks since we reconnected and continued to learn more about one another as adults today. After being at TGT for awhile, he had to get going to help his mom with stuff ("You only get one mom in life so you need to help her out when you can."-Mister Myster(y)) and I had to get back to procrastinating doing school work ("It'll get done!"-Me).
When we left, he initiated the goodbye hug. I said that we should get together again soon. He said sooner rather than later and he will be sending me a message in a few minutes. I wasn't sure what message was going to be sent to me considering he could have said what he wanted to say while I was there...but I went with it. After about a half hour or so, I guess when he got home, he texted me to say that he had a good time with me and he looks forward to spending more time with me. So nice!
Is this a match made in heaven? Not yet. Will it ever be? Who knows? But, it's nice to catch up with someone from your past and see what happens. There is a red flag or two... ok, perhaps they're not red yet. Let's go with ballet slipper flags.... pale pink, not even hot pink. So not red, but could be on it's way headed there. I'm just not sure yet how big of a problem the flag items might be. It's only been date one and yes, typically I'm dismissive over things like a wonky tooth even on date one, but I'm learning and growing. Plus I take advice from my friends to heart (sometimes) and have learned that I need to be a bit more understanding and not so judgmental right out of the gate.
I'm always game for something new and exciting... which might be the reason for my singledomness. Perhaps he will change that status. We shall see!
Sunday, February 7, 2016
Sunday, January 3, 2016
Date 2 with Justin
Alrighty..... well, I thought I would have been posting a date blog sooner than this but Justin works late sometimes and often has a 2 hour commute. He doesn't feel up to heading out anywhere after he gets home around 8 or later. I can't blame him. I come home at 4 (sometimes 3:30) and immediately get into PJ's and that's where I hibernate until the next morning. Don't judge!
So, I had told him earlier in the week that I was thinking about sitting myself at The Greene Turtle to watch the Skins beat Dallas today. He said that he would keep me company if I didn't mind a tag-a-long. I was surprised by his offer because he doesn't like and isn't into football. I appreciated the gesture that he wanted to spend time with me and would put up with football to do so. :) I told him he was more than welcome to attend anything he wished with me but I hope I didn't have to wait until Sunday (today) to see him. He said something about getting sushi or asked if I liked sushi. I told him that I heard sushi was like wine; there's a type out there for everyone I just haven't tried enough to figure out if I like it or not. Well, I thought that this meant that he would have invited me to dinner prior to today, but he didn't. That's ok. It all worked out fine in the end.
So, since I am in-between his house and TGT, he said he would pick me up. I was outside waiting for him since my house is a mess and I didn't want to let him catch any glimpse of what a disaster it is at the moment. His car is spotless, just like his apartment. I started to think that perhaps he was a bit OCD and his cleanliness wasn't just "Army related". He had a huge box in the back. He told me it was headlights for his car that are the wrong size and he hasn't gotten around to shipping them back yet because he is waiting to see if Amazon will figure out a way to lessen the expense (this box will be mentioned later on...) . On the way out of my community, my friend Marina was in the car behind us. He thought that was an interesting coincidence. I told him it's a very small community!
When we got to TGT all the bar seats were taken so we sat in a booth. It worked out. I appreciated that I didn't have to wear my glasses since there was a TV in our booth. :) We shared fried pickles, crab dip and chicken wings. I discovered that he is not a fan of sauces: no ketchup, no ranch dressing, not really anything. I thought that was interesting. I also discovered that I was only his second date from an online dating site. The first was almost a year ago when he first moved to the area and there was nothing really there. He had deleted his account and just recently (within the past 3-4 weeks) put a profile back up. I filled him in on the details of me being a professional online dater (no mention of the blog was discussed- he won't tell me his birthday so I don't need to divulge blog deets), and told him some of my dating horror stories. The leg rubber/touchy feely guy was mentioned, as was the guy with the flames on his shirt and Mr. Halitosis. Mr. Halitosis might have occurred prior to the blog... it was a LONG ways back! Anyway, we chatted for a while and I could tell he was getting a bit bored, as was I but it was closing in on the end of the game. I asked if he could hold out 11 more play minutes which is like 20 or so more real minutes and he said it was no problem. I told him I would buy him coffee at Starbucks when the game was over. "Deal!"
We walked over to Starbucks where we ran into Marina's son, Patrick! I told him it was a very small community and you are bound to run into someone you know no matter where you go. I bought him a coffee and he described to me what a flat white was. I'm so much smarter now. I tried to order a Holiday Spice Flat White, but they were out of the holiday stuff since they are moving it on out. I went with my go-to: Peppermint Mocha, no whip, super-super hot!
On the way back to the car, he told me that the next time we get together (yay, he's talking future sense) if I see the box in his backseat (see, the box...it's baaack) then I need to give him hell for it because that means he's been lazy and he needs to do something with it. I told him I could do that! Being bossy is kinda my thing.... just ask Marina! I was hoping that he would suggest sitting and chatting some more because I enjoy his company but he didn't. That was ok. It was a bit chilly but tolerable in the sun. I needed to get home to feed the pup anyway.
So he dropped me off at my house and there was no kiss or anything. There was no attempt that seemed to be made. I texted him once I got in the house and said "thanks." I also told him that I really wanted to kiss him. He said that he was very conscious of the fact that he needed to brush his teeth otherwise he maybe would've tried. I took this opportunity to ask him if he was a bit germaphobic and/or OCD. He said that he's really weird about hygiene and avoids exposing anyone to his non-hygienic self. He also said he considers himself borderline OCD, but that it all seems perfectly normal to him and he just likes to be extra clean. I can get with that but that is so the opposite of me. I definitely need to clean, clean, clean if he is ever going to be stepping foot into my house!
I'm definitely looking forward to seeing him again. I can't wait to spend more time with him and get to know him better. :) I'm hoping there's a Justin Blog Number 3!
So, I had told him earlier in the week that I was thinking about sitting myself at The Greene Turtle to watch the Skins beat Dallas today. He said that he would keep me company if I didn't mind a tag-a-long. I was surprised by his offer because he doesn't like and isn't into football. I appreciated the gesture that he wanted to spend time with me and would put up with football to do so. :) I told him he was more than welcome to attend anything he wished with me but I hope I didn't have to wait until Sunday (today) to see him. He said something about getting sushi or asked if I liked sushi. I told him that I heard sushi was like wine; there's a type out there for everyone I just haven't tried enough to figure out if I like it or not. Well, I thought that this meant that he would have invited me to dinner prior to today, but he didn't. That's ok. It all worked out fine in the end.
So, since I am in-between his house and TGT, he said he would pick me up. I was outside waiting for him since my house is a mess and I didn't want to let him catch any glimpse of what a disaster it is at the moment. His car is spotless, just like his apartment. I started to think that perhaps he was a bit OCD and his cleanliness wasn't just "Army related". He had a huge box in the back. He told me it was headlights for his car that are the wrong size and he hasn't gotten around to shipping them back yet because he is waiting to see if Amazon will figure out a way to lessen the expense (this box will be mentioned later on...) . On the way out of my community, my friend Marina was in the car behind us. He thought that was an interesting coincidence. I told him it's a very small community!
When we got to TGT all the bar seats were taken so we sat in a booth. It worked out. I appreciated that I didn't have to wear my glasses since there was a TV in our booth. :) We shared fried pickles, crab dip and chicken wings. I discovered that he is not a fan of sauces: no ketchup, no ranch dressing, not really anything. I thought that was interesting. I also discovered that I was only his second date from an online dating site. The first was almost a year ago when he first moved to the area and there was nothing really there. He had deleted his account and just recently (within the past 3-4 weeks) put a profile back up. I filled him in on the details of me being a professional online dater (no mention of the blog was discussed- he won't tell me his birthday so I don't need to divulge blog deets), and told him some of my dating horror stories. The leg rubber/touchy feely guy was mentioned, as was the guy with the flames on his shirt and Mr. Halitosis. Mr. Halitosis might have occurred prior to the blog... it was a LONG ways back! Anyway, we chatted for a while and I could tell he was getting a bit bored, as was I but it was closing in on the end of the game. I asked if he could hold out 11 more play minutes which is like 20 or so more real minutes and he said it was no problem. I told him I would buy him coffee at Starbucks when the game was over. "Deal!"
We walked over to Starbucks where we ran into Marina's son, Patrick! I told him it was a very small community and you are bound to run into someone you know no matter where you go. I bought him a coffee and he described to me what a flat white was. I'm so much smarter now. I tried to order a Holiday Spice Flat White, but they were out of the holiday stuff since they are moving it on out. I went with my go-to: Peppermint Mocha, no whip, super-super hot!
On the way back to the car, he told me that the next time we get together (yay, he's talking future sense) if I see the box in his backseat (see, the box...it's baaack) then I need to give him hell for it because that means he's been lazy and he needs to do something with it. I told him I could do that! Being bossy is kinda my thing.... just ask Marina! I was hoping that he would suggest sitting and chatting some more because I enjoy his company but he didn't. That was ok. It was a bit chilly but tolerable in the sun. I needed to get home to feed the pup anyway.
So he dropped me off at my house and there was no kiss or anything. There was no attempt that seemed to be made. I texted him once I got in the house and said "thanks." I also told him that I really wanted to kiss him. He said that he was very conscious of the fact that he needed to brush his teeth otherwise he maybe would've tried. I took this opportunity to ask him if he was a bit germaphobic and/or OCD. He said that he's really weird about hygiene and avoids exposing anyone to his non-hygienic self. He also said he considers himself borderline OCD, but that it all seems perfectly normal to him and he just likes to be extra clean. I can get with that but that is so the opposite of me. I definitely need to clean, clean, clean if he is ever going to be stepping foot into my house!
I'm definitely looking forward to seeing him again. I can't wait to spend more time with him and get to know him better. :) I'm hoping there's a Justin Blog Number 3!
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