So, this morning was set to be the official third date, but last night I was meeting a coworker and her husband in Annapolis for a late night bite to eat, so I decided to see if Ryan wanted to stop by after work. I knew he was due to get off work at 1030 and it was about 10ish when I got this idea.... He said he was game. We didn't stay too long but we closed the place down. He only got one beer and I got fried pickles so I paid for our share of the tab. :)
We left there about midnight and he walked me to my car. There was an exchange of a couple awkward kisses. I could tell he was trying to get a bit more into the goodbye than I was so it was a bit awkward. But, we got through it and confirmed that we would see each other at the Iron Rooster at 9am......
.....at 9am.... I was running a bit behind due to the loveliness that is Annapolis roadways. He said he would just wait by the docks and it was no problem. When I got to the parking lot, there was an open spot right next to him in prime parking real estate territory. Parking luck, double time. Plus, the meters don't start until 10 so we had about 45 minutes of free parking.
Breakfast was fantastic. I had to get a pop tart since they are their specialty there and he ordered one too so we could try two different flavors. I got the brown sugar one (and it was delicious). He got the coffee one (which was good, but not as good as mine). I also was tossing back and forth from the french toast and the meal I ultimately decided on choosing. I love me some french toast, but it's on challah bread and I'm not sure I'm going to like that. I like thinner bread for my FT. So I went with 2 eggs (over medium), home fries, rye bread and bacon. I ate only about 3/4th of everything because it was so filling. He ordered the shrimp and grits.... no comment on the looks of that!
Toward the end of breakfast, it was time to feed the meter so he ran out and gave each meter 2 hours worth of meter food. He then came back and the check came. Now, as I posted in the previous blog, I was willing to pay for this date since he has graciously paid for all the others (except the coffee consumption at Starbucks). I reached for the bill and he did too. I told him that I would pay for this one since he paid for all the others and he said no, it's his pleasure. Which made me giggle because I immediately thought that he could get a job at Chik-Fil-A with no problem! I then told him that I wasn't going to fight him on it and thank you!
So we paid, and decided since we had tons of time to kill, we would walk around the cobblestone streets of DTA. When we looped around back to our cars, we still had an hour left so we decided to walk over the Eastport Bridge and see what there was to see over there. We got back to our cars with 7 minutes left on the meter. I mentioned my friend's party which is happening Saturday and asked if he wanted to attend after he was done working. He agreed and so that will be the next planned "date". Is it really a date when it's a gathering of sorts? Anyway, that will be the next time we have planned to see one another. He has off Tuesday and Wednesday but has his kid. I believe he has his kid Friday too.
Ok, so i decided since this seems to be going in the right direction, I would fill him in as to my lack of affection and hand holding phobia (no wonder I'm single, right?). So I sent him a lengthy text which is transcribed as follows:
Me: Ok since it seems like we're still headed in the right direction, I think it's only fair that I give you fair warning. I'm not the most affectionate person at least to start with. I don't really like holding hands and I think it's kind of odd to do so. And I'm not very comfortable with kissing at least passionately in public places. I don't mind a quick kiss goodbye or a kiss on the cheek or something like that but other than that, at least in the beginning until something is a bit more established, I like to keep it simple. I am very in dependent and getting close to people is not something that I'm use to. I am very guarded but I am enjoying getting to know you and spending time with you. I just wanted to make you aware of how I feel so that neither one of us is in an odd situation or an uncomfortable situation. I also do not like talking about my feelings so I would never say any of this in person. LOL.
Him: That's ok. I'd rather you be up front about that anyway. I am most definitely enjoying our time together. If you feel I am going too fast please feel free to let me know. The last thing I was to do is make you feel uncomfortable. I can see you are independent. I can be a little old fashioned, sometimes to a fault. But I am also very adaptable. Also, I think your dog will like me. LOL.
Me: LOL. Oh my dog would definitely like you. Old fashioned is good. It's tough to find someone like that these days so you're a welcome surprise in the dating world. The door opening and the paying for dates has not gone unnoticed, trust me. Major brownie points are earned every time.
With all that said, I feel much better and hopefully more relaxed when we are together now that I know he knows my thoughts and feelings about all that stuff. While we were walking today, I found myself making sure that my wristlet/wallet/purse thing was in my hand that was closest to him so that he couldn't just go in for a hold. Ridiculous, I know! I've got more issues than People magazine!
I do enjoy his company, that I wouldn't lie about or go along with if it wasn't true. He also is very attentive and remembers details of things that I've already told him. I, on the other hand, can't remember diddly-squat.
Until Saturday (perhaps sooner if there's an impromptu encounter)....
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